Being Engaged

Being engaged is a wonderful time. It’s that time of planning and festivities before the union and unity of marriage. Rather your proposal was extravagant, quiet or a mutual understanding. That day will always be your personal story. The day you decided on making it official. Even if you went ring shopping together or it was a total surprise. There will be that inner glee. You even hear the heartwarming stories of “he proposed with a ring from the popcorn box, or with a piece of string” It’s the sentiment that counts. Enjoy this time, take time out with your family and friends. You’ll tell your proposal story a million times over, as you call your friends and family, it’s the first question they’ll ask. Do keep in mind that while most family and friends wish you well, they might be a few ones that may not sound as elated as they should, don’t take it to heart. However if a lot of family and friends come with just and logical reasons, you can take some time and think about it, or try premarital counselling to put yourself and them at ease.

Decide as a couple what type of wedding you will be having. Large, Small, Destination or something intimate. At this point there are many things to decide before the actual planning of the wedding. While it’s best not to overdo it, laying the groundwork is best for having a stress free engagement. While asking him which china patterns, or which 5 shades of white for linens may not be advised. Try to include him in your planning the wedding is for you both, suggest things he may like, for e.g. Entertainment for the reception or surprise him with a groom’s cake. Try and take an engagement photo session, it's worth the investment. Also continue getting to know and enjoy each other, don’t let this period be only about the wedding. Getting to indulge in your significant other’s family is a great way to start.

After deciding what type of wedding you will be having. Just a few questions to keep in mind.

We’ll talk about the “B” word, your budget.

Will you be footing the bill as a couple or will parents or family members be assisting?

While setting your budget, do note.

Will your honeymoon be included?

Is your wedding planner fees included?

Will your wedding bands be included?

Will your other events “Bridal shower; rehearsal dinner; bachelor/bachelorette parties” be included in this budget?

 If during your planning you go over budget, will you be able to cover it, or will you scale down?

It is best to purchase a wedding planning journal or binder to keep organized. Hire a wedding planner, they can keep you on track best. If you decide to go it alone. KEEP ALL RECEIPTS. You’ll be surprised how all those beautiful items you purchased for the wedding adds up. Most wedding planning journals have a guideline of what you should be doing and when and wedding planners generally give you updates and a guide of what you should be doing and what is needed of you.

Enjoy the bliss and congratulations on your engagement.