A few tips for guests invited to same sex unions

If you're invited to a same sex ceremony and have not previously attended one, It's natural to wonder what is expected of guests. The answer is simple, guest etiquette is the same as for a traditional wedding celebration. The points address some common concerns, but common sense is always the best guide.

• Reply to the invitation as soon as possible, If you must decline, there is no need for excuses. Invitees who are genuinely  opposed to, or upset by same sex unions would be wise to decline graciously rather than risk dampening the happiness of the couple. 

• Whether you can attend or not, the invitation obliges you to send a wedding gift.

• When choosing attire, be guided by the time of the ceremony and the nature of the invitation. (Formal, Informal or Casual)

• Follow the order of service in the ceremony program if one is provided, otherwise
  take the lead from the wedding party and other guests. Chances are the ceremony and reception will be similar to other weddings you've attended.

• Go through the receiving line if there is one. If not be sure to extend best wishes to the couple and their families at some point during the party.

• Refrain from making comments or asking questions that might be perceived as negative. This wont be hard if guests bear in mind that the ceremony while it may not be legally sanctioned, it honors the lifetime commitment of two people in love.

Same sex couples have commitment ceremonies which is usually planned the same way as heterosexual weddings are planned. Although there is no set structure for a commitment ceremony, it often includes; The introduction; the service; the vows; the exchange of rings; the pronouncement. Let me point out verbiage may change in same sex nuptials for example; the couple is recognized as married, this part of the ceremony can be worded in several ways; "since you have consented to join together in the bond of matrimony and pledged yourselves to each other in the presence of this company. I now pronounce you married" or  "by the presence of this company, by the power of your love, I now pronounce you married." Now you feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter to each other. Now you feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to each other. There is no more loneliness, for each other will be companion to each other. Now you are two bodies, but there is only one life before you. You will now go to your dwelling place to enter unto the days of your togetherness.

At the end of it all enjoy yourself and celebrate the joining of two people in love.