A Little Etiquette

Ten Do's and Don'ts' of Thank You Notes

This Check list helps couples avoid common missteps when expressing their gratitude in writing thank you notes.

• Do personalize your notes, making reference to the person, as well as the gift.

• Do be enthusiastic, but you don't need to gush. Avoid saying that a gift is the most beautiful thing you've ever seen, unless you mean it.

• Don't send form letters or cards with printed messages and just your signature. Don't  use email or post generic thank you's on your website in lieu of personal notes.

• Don't tailor notes to the perceived value of gifts. No one should receive a dashed off perfunctory note.

• Don't include wedding photo's or use photo cards if this will delay sending notes. 

• Do refer to the use you will make of monetary gifts, mentioning the amount is optional.

• Don't mention that you plan to return or exchange a gift or indicate dissatisfaction in any way.

•  Do promptly acknowledge receipt of shipped gifts either send your thank-you within a few days or call or email the sender - following up with a written note soon.

• Don't use lateness in writing as an excuse not to write, if you're still sending thank-you notes after your first anniversary, KEEP WRITING!

• Do remember that a gift should be acknowledged with the same courtesy and generous spirit in which it was given.